Here’s What You Should Know About How Do You Get Over Being Cheated On Right Now
So, you’ve been blindsided. The rug has been pulled out from under you. Your trust has been… well, let’s just say it’s taken a rather dramatic scenic route. Getting over being cheated on is like trying to assemble IKEA furniture without the instructions, except the furniture is your emotional well-being and the instructions are somewhere in a black hole.
First things first. Take a deep breath. Or ten. Maybe a hundred. Go ahead, hyperventilate a little. It’s a completely acceptable reaction. Think of it as your body’s way of doing a dramatic internal monologue. “Seriously?” it’s screaming. “This is what we’re dealing with right now?”
Now, let’s talk about what not to do. Spoiler alert: it involves a lot of questionable life choices that you’ll regret at 3 AM. For instance, do not, under any circumstances, embark on a social media stalking marathon. You know, the kind where you accidentally like a photo from 2017. That’s not healing; that’s self-inflicted digital torture. And please, for the love of all that is holy, do not immediately try to "win them back" by suddenly becoming a yoga guru who subsists solely on kale and good vibes. It’s not convincing, and your digestive system will stage a rebellion.
The Unpopular Opinion Part
Here’s my unpopular opinion: you’re allowed to be a hot mess. Like, a glorious, unashamedly messy hot mess. For a while. Trying to be a stoic, perfectly healed individual within 24 hours is frankly unrealistic and a little bit… boring. Embrace the chaos. Let the tears flow. Watch all the sad movies. Eat that entire tub of ice cream. It’s a rite of passage, people!
Think of yourself as a phoenix. Right now, you’re probably feeling like a damp, slightly singed feather. That’s okay. The fire is coming, but it needs to do its thing first. You can’t just will yourself into soaring. Sometimes, you need to sit in the ashes for a bit. It’s like a dramatic pause before the epic comeback.
Let’s talk about the “closure” myth. Oh, closure. The elusive unicorn of the relationship world. Most of the time, closure isn’t about getting a neatly wrapped explanation from the person who hurt you. It’s about giving it to yourself. Your ex doesn’t owe you a detailed breakdown of their thought process. Frankly, you probably don’t want to know. Trust me on this. Some things are better left unsaid, like the exact shade of lipstick they wore to meet their… other plans.
So, instead of chasing after the phantom of closure, focus on building your own internal peace treaty. This involves a lot of introspection, but without the overly serious, therapist-voice kind. Think more along the lines of, “Okay, so that didn’t work. What did I learn?” (Besides the fact that some people are fundamentally untrustworthy, which, let’s be honest, you probably already suspected deep down.)
Self-Care: The Non-Negotiable Edition
Self-care is suddenly your new best friend. And I don’t mean the fluffy, Instagram-perfect kind of self-care, although a good face mask is always welcome. I’m talking about the gritty, essential kind. This means:
- Hydration: Drink water. Lots of it. Your tears need to be replenished.
- Nourishment: Eat something vaguely healthy. Your body is going through a lot, and it needs fuel that isn’t just pure regret.
- Movement: Go for a walk. Or a run. Or just a vigorous shuffle to the fridge. Get those endorphins going, even if they’re just protesting.
- Sleep: Try to get some. Easier said than done, I know. Maybe invest in some fancy earplugs to drown out the internal replays of betrayal.
And here’s another unpopular opinion: it’s okay to be angry. Like, really, truly, incandescently angry. Channel that anger. Don’t let it fester and turn into something bitter. Scream into a pillow. Write a scathing, never-to-be-sent letter. Take up kickboxing. Whatever it takes to get that primal roar out.
Remember that this is a process, not a race. There will be good days and bad days. Days where you feel like you’re finally over it, and days where you’re back to square one, replaying that one text message in your head for the millionth time. That’s normal. It’s part of the healing journey. Think of it as navigating a particularly bumpy road. You’ll hit potholes, you’ll have detours, but eventually, you’ll reach your destination.
And that destination? It’s a place where you’re not defined by what happened to you. It’s a place where you trust again, but with a newfound wisdom. It’s a place where you’re stronger, wiser, and dare I say, even more fabulous than before. Because let’s be honest, surviving this kind of stuff is pretty darn impressive. You’re basically a superhero in training. Just try not to wear the cape too early, okay? It’s still a bit damp from all the tears.
So, while there’s no magic wand to instantly erase the hurt, there are steps you can take. Be kind to yourself. Allow yourself to feel. And when you’re ready, start rebuilding. You’ve got this. Even if it feels like you don’t right now. Especially if it feels like you don’t right now. Because that’s when the real strength emerges. The kind of strength that comes from being put through the wringer and coming out the other side, slightly singed, but undeniably intact. And frankly, that’s a much better story than the one where everything was just fine and dandy.